Big decisions
February 9, 2010I’ve decided to take a step back from school in a while.
So much has happened in the last year:
Since December of 2008:
- My parents got a divorce and my world was rocked.
- I spent the summer on a missions internship in Kenya and my heart aches to serve those who the world throws to the ground.
- I transferred from Denison University in Ohio to the University of Kentucky over the summer- right before my senior year.
- Daniel and I finally got to be in the same place, instead of dating long-distance!
- I got engaged (to my best friend and man of God)!
- We have a house to move into once we’re married (praise the Lord!)
- We will be married in May (108 days from now!)
- My dad got remarried
- My dad moved in with his new family, my mom and siblings moved into a new house- thus leaving me without a sense of “home”.
- I’m plugged in with an awesome small group of girls, these women have truly been such great friends during this time of transition!
- There are 4+ weddings of my friends to go to this summer!
So many things have been happening lately, and many of the things I’ve gone through have made me a stronger person. However, I have not begun to deal with the reality of my parents divorce, and I have not really had time to grieve or absorb anything. My life has been on “fast-forward” for a while, and I’m feeling the effects. I’m taking some time for myself and away from Lexington for a bit. I feel like I’ve been trudging through the mud for the past 7 or so months. I have been extremely emotional and anxious about many things, and that is not who I am.
I have struggled to be my usual, fun-loving, adventurous self. There’s something inside of me that needs healing. After bringing all of my anxieties, fear and frustrations to the Lord, I have recieved confirmation that I need to take a step back.
I intend to spend time in prayer, in fasting and in reading my Bible. I need to gain a better sense of who I am as a child of God. I need to prepare my heart and my mind for marriage. I want to go in to our marriage with a better sense of who I am and how I can serve Daniel even better. I want to feel whole again, I want to regain a sense of purpose and a direction. In God’s time, I’ll go back to school and finish my degree. With the Lord’s direction, he will provide opportunities to minister and to be filled up.
I’ll be spending a few weeks in Louisville collecting myself and receiving counsel, and then I’ll return back to Lexington where I will continue counseling. I plan on beginning to work, I need something to keep me busy. I am praying that my spirit is mended- I feel so very broken- and I can’t give to others when I’m hurting.
The Lord has blessed me so much- he has put people in my life that are supportive of the choices that I’m making.
I don’t really know who will read this, but I just wanted to document this so that I can come back and look at this entry later and just have a record of what God has brought me through!
And just for kicks- another engagement picture with our “love eggs”
please find me if you have time in Louisville. We can go for a run (or cross country ski)…depending on the weather! 🙂 God has you in this and will heal those parts of you as you get close to him. You will make a great wife and you’ll already a world changer. Looking forward to continuing the journey with you. praying for you sister!
by The Other Holly February 9, 2010 at 11:00 pmKeep your head up kiddo! (Hehe, get it, you’re older than me!?) Maybe you can take some cooking classes to help channel some of that energy, I heard it can be very therapeutic.
Of course, if you need anything, I’m always here for you —- even if I go to school 700 miles away!
by Peg February 9, 2010 at 11:20 pmI have you close in my prayers Holly. I really understand what you are talking about. My world felt like it was completely crumbled after my mom and stepfather divorced when I was in the middle of high school. I tried to ignore everything going on inside, but I finally hit rock bottom. Now I see that it was the first time I realized my complete helplessness. He was right there with me, but it took me a while to fully lean into Him. In the hands of the Potter, I am still going through healing on a number of levels. My heart stirs as I think about how wonderful and faithful He is. I know He will fill you with all that you need. I will keep praying alongside you as you go on this journey with the One who holds your heart.
by Elizabeth Jacoby February 10, 2010 at 3:01 am